The First Day of the Rest of Your Lives

I’ve been seeing a lot of articles suggesting that couples will higher budget weddings have a higher rate of divorce. Now, I’m not here to argue about statistics and research or whatever. I’m here to talk about why you SHOULD care about your wedding. 

Ojai Wedding
Stephanie Hogue Photography

I think the first thing to point out is that not always couples and not all weddings are the same. People value different things – that’s why I put together that little guide for you last week on how to establish your priorities. There are some people that have dreamt of their weddings since before they can remember, and some haven’t. The point is – the only thing your wedding should be is a reflection of who YOU are as a couple at this point in your lives.

Let’s get to what IS important though. You. And your spouse. Getting married. 

Yes, that’s it. 

The rest of it is a CELEBRATION of that commitment, whatever that means to you. If your celebration takes place in a courthouse for less than $150, then good for you! That’s awesome, and I personally know quite a few couples that want the privacy and intimacy of an elopement or civil wedding. 

People celebrate in different ways, but don’t feel guilty if you spend upwards of $100,000 on your wedding (and I can’t be sorry for it either – there’s a reason I have a job!). Because your celebration is just as valid as anyone else’s. 

I’ve heard from friends that don’t understand the point of having a wedding, and it breaks my heart. It’s just a day, right? Wrong.

Because your wedding is the first day of the rest of your lives. Together.


Photography :: Stephanie Hogue Photography


    1. You know, I’ve seen stats from both sides of the spectrum- more than 200 people at your wedding and you divorce rate drops, more than 5k on your wedding and it shoots up again-?! To me it means less about how much you spend on the wedding and more about the financial and emotional support that you will have as a couple when the tough time comes. I’m totally on your side though- a wedding should be as big or small the couple wants it to be. I think in reality size or budget of a wedding has very little bearing if any on how a couple will fare through the years.

    1. I never really thought of it that way! I’m definitely of the “ehhhhh a wedding is just a day let’s just buy a really comfortable mattress” crowd. But then again, who knows. I’ll keep thinking about it.

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