How to Work with Your Wedding Planner

So many people don’t understand the world of weddings, which is where wedding planners come in. I don’t even know how many times I’ve heard clients say “but I just don’t know where to start!” – this is completely normal, believe me. And if you find yourself stressing over where to begin, I would highly encourage you to look into wedding planners in your area. Here’s a great post on why wedding planners are an investment that you might find to be completely worth it. 

The thing is, people also don’t understand what our roles are and how to work with us. The truth is – what we do depends on you. How involved you need us to be, how detailed, etc. But here are a few things that you need to be aware of when working with your wedding planner and how to make your relationship work for the both of you. 



This is obvious, but you would be amazed at how many people don’t actually trust their vendors. When researching wedding planners and/or coordinators, try your hardest to meet with them in person. It’s so much easier to decide if you trust a person when meeting with them face-to-face. For some, the most important thing when it comes to choosing vendors is cost, but try not to go down that road. If you don’t fully trust your wedding planner, you’ll eventually resent them. You’ll feel like you’re doing all the work that they should be doing, when in reality you’re not giving them the opportunity to show you their full potential. Don’t be afraid to take a few days to make a decision, or to ask for references from previous brides before booking. And if someone just doesn’t vibe well with you, then it’s time to move on. Not every planner is compatible with every bride and groom. 

But as soon as you do sign on that dotted line, be prepared to give your full trust to your wedding planner.



Honesty between a client and their vendors goes both ways – we have to be honest with you if we believe that something won’t work or won’t fit into your budget. But you also need to be honest with us if you aren’t quite sure about a decision being made or would rather put your focus on another area. 

The truth is, we’re not mind readers. Disappointing, I know, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get the wedding you’ve always wanted! While we can’t read your minds, one of the things that sets us apart from others is our ability to decipher and interpret your vision and priorities, and create something that you never even knew you wanted. But in order to do so, you have to be honest with us, especially if you don’t like an idea. We love to think outside the box, but we also understand that not everyone is going to see our vision – and that’s okay! Just make sure you tell us the truth. 



I didn’t realize how vulnerable the relationship between wedding planner + client is until a few years into my career as a professional wedding planner. As wedding planners, we become intimately familiar with your family dynamics, your financial situation, and your relationship with your partner. We definitely don’t take this responsibility lightly – a good wedding planner will retain your trust while mediating disagreements between you and your in-laws or bringing you back down to earth after you fall in love with something far beyond your budget. 

Creating an event that represents the personalities of our clients is our top priority, but we can’t do this unless you let yourselves be a little bit vulnerable throughout the process. We need to know what you’re nervous of, what you’re excited about, what absolutely terrifies you. And in return, we’ll be vulnerable with you as well – being creative is an immensely personal thing, and you have the power to completely destroy our confidence in our work. But by being vulnerable together – by examining those things that lie far beneath the surface – we will create something you never knew was possible. 


Photography :: Brian Tropiano | Florals :: Krista Jon for Archive | Rentals :: Archive Vintage Rentals | Dress :: Lindee Daniel | Accessories :: Hushed Commotion | Jewelry :: BHLDN | Hair and Makeup :: Kacee Geoffroy | Venue :: the Colony House

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