It was mentioned in conversation with a friend the other day. The idea that I live my life online for attention. Normally, I try not to consider what other people think of me, in any way, shape, or form (though, let’s be honest, this is difficult for anyone). But it did get me thinking – why do I share my story? It’s not for validation, though getting emails from readers telling me how much my honesty means to them really does make a difference.
I share my story because I’m OWNING my story.
I just started reading Rising Strong by Brené Brown, and holy moly. I’m only a few chapters in so far, but I can already tell that book is going to change things.
This journey belongs to no one but you; however, no one successfully goes it alone. Since the beginning of time, people have found a way to rise after falling, yet there is no well-worn path leading the way. All of us must make our own way, exploring some of the most universally shared experiences while also navigating a solitude that makes us feel as if we are the first to set foot in uncharted regions. And to add to the complexity, in lieu of the sense of safety to be found in a well-traveled path or a constant companion, we must learn to depend for brief moments on fellow travelers for sanctuary, support and an occasional willingness to walk side by side. … For those of us who prefer to cordon ourselves off from the world and heal alone, the requirement for connection—of asking for and receiving help—becomes the challenge.
– Rising Strong by Brené Brown
By being honest and open, I am taking OWNERSHIP of my experience. I’m not letting anyone else define that experience for me. Being vulnerable and open is probably one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it’s also one of the most rewarding. Not only am I defining my own narrative, but I’m letting myself feel. I’m openly asking for help and guidance. I’m not going at it alone.
Others are going to think what they want about you, that’s a fact, and there’s nothing we can do about it. They are going to judge your experience and your story, but you know the old saying? That says more about them than it does you. So own your story. Live it. Define it. Don’t be ashamed or afraid of what has happened or what might happen. Because by taking ownership, YOU get to make the decision. YOU get to define the ending. And that is more powerful than we could ever imagine.
I will likely be writing multiple posts inspired by Rising Strong by Brené Brown – if you would like to read along with me, you can purchase your copy via Amazon here. I’m especially looking forward to sharing my grit without the gold plating. Something I don’t like to acknowledge very often.
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