How to be Charming :: Recognize Your Privilege

There’s a lot going on in the world today, there’s no questioning that. It also seems as if everyone has to have an opinion on everything, which I definitely approve of. But there’s one little elephant that we need to discuss. 

I think a big part of being charming is attitude, and having a gracious outlook on life. The phrase #ImSoBlessed is almost overused these days, so much so that it’s nearly a meme in and of itself. Are we too quick to extol our abundant blessings? Perhaps some, but I don’t think it should be considered negative as long as we are doing so authentically and sincerely. 

The thing is, I don’t think many of us are willing to honestly recognize the true privilege that we have in our lives. There are so many things going on in the world, and being a human means understanding our narrative in conjunction with that of those around us. 

As long as you can argue for your opinion, I won’t fault you for it, but being a charming, lovely person means understanding that there are things going on in the world that are bigger than you. And realizing that, perhaps, your experience is clouded by the de facto privilege in your life. 

I will always stand up for what I believe in. I will not be ashamed for it, and neither should you! But acknowledging the things that you’ve been given in life that put you at an advantage is necessary. I’m not insinuating that you, or your parents or your family, don’t deserve or somehow didn’t work to get where you are. What I’m saying is that being charming and gracious means not taking anything for granted. It means presenting your arguments in a way that show compassion, empathy, and understanding for those that live a different life than you do. It means acknowledging that you are more privileged than others, in whatever way, and using it as a tool for viewing and understanding the world. 


    1. So true, Joelle! I think recognizing our privilege, as you said, is a form of practicing kindness. It allows us to open our hearts and minds a bit wider, a virtue that I think gets lost in our society’s emphasis on aggression (fighting/arguing for our opinion, etc.). Practicing awareness of our blessings (and practicing gratitude, too) breeds empathy, and I’m a firm believer that the world is best seen through empathetic eyes. :) Thanks for so eloquently shining a light on the subject!

    1. My God, this article is just amazing, Joelle! I totally agree with you, and even if I didn’t, I would defend your right to say it. It’s truly awful what is happening right now, we actually had a trip to Paris booked in a month, but we cancelled it due to the recent events.. However, thank you for a fantastic blog, I love it!

      Love from Sweden ♡

    1. well said and i agree. i have definitely used the words ‘i’m so blessed’ and sometimes i feel like people roll their eyes when they read those words of mine. i also think that recognizing the privileges/blessings in your life don’t have to be broadcasted or ‘bragged’ about…if you can keep them to yourself and still appreciate the wonderful parts of your life, that is a way to be truly content.

      good stuff! ciao!

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