I’m sure I’m not the only who feels overwhelmed today, and for good reason: there’s a lot to be overwhelmed about. We are constantly bombarded by stories of death and injustice and pain and sorrow and if you’re anything like me, you just feel too much sometimes. With every story of hate there is a place for us to donate our time and money. With every discriminatory bill proposed by congress there is a phone number for us to call. With every tragedy sustained there is a new profile picture we are supposed to use. And frankly it’s exhausting.
I felt really guilty recently for all the fun I had with my birthday and Remi’s birthday and other fun things going on in life. I felt like I wasn’t supposed to be happy. I was supposed to fight, constantly, in a battle that has no real end.
But here’s the thing: you can’t win a war if you are running on empty.
There’s a reason why during the emergency presentation at the beginning of every flight, they tell you to make sure your mask is on before helping anyone else with theirs. Because you can’t help other people if you aren’t taken care of first. That goes not only for emergency situations, but everyday life too. Self care is important, whatever that means to you.
We are in for a long four years, so we have to make sure we are ready to go. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. So if that means you take a break from the news so that you can head to the spa for the afternoon, by all means. Need a quick pick-me-up? Champagne always seems to do the trick for me.
One thing to remember, however: it’s our privilege that let’s us turn the fight on and off. So don’t feel guilty for it; if anything, recognize it and work WITH it, not against it. Use that privilege to fight for what’s right, not only for yourself, but for every marginalized person in the world. There’s a lot to do, so let’s do it.